Thursday, 31 July 2014

Trendy Tot Week 4

Welcome to my new post linking up again for Trendy Tots Thursday with Clearly Bex and MotherGeek.I absolutely love this new linky as it is so easy to join in what with Olivia being the little princess she is! She loves her clothes and dressing up and anything girly right now. She also loves seeing herself on the blog too, vain much!

So this week we bring you........ another dress! I promise we will pick another outfit soon but what with the weather being so good lately she has only been wearing dresses (we could link up every week for about a year only with her wearing dresses she has that many!)

So this weeks dress actually belongs to one of my nieces. She went for a sleepover and decided to borrow this gorgeous little summer dress. My niece has had it for a couple of years now and it has remained white, needless to say I was petrified it would get ruined, Olivia has a reputation for ruining clothes right from her baby days but....... she proved me wrong and it has stayed white *phew*

The dress is an old collection from next age 10-11 and that is all I know about it. It has a ribbed jersey vest top going into an elasticated waist with a flower on. The skirt is a tiered broderie anglaise pattern which I'm not sure you can on the pics and shoes are the Asda favourites as they are super comfy I'm told well worth the £10 anyways. The pose as always are all Olivia, Kate Moss eat your heart out!

The gorgeous little grump, naughty me for stopping pushing her to snap a pic, on the left is my adorable 15 month old niece Alicia wearing a cute little romper from Asda age 9-12 months at a bargain £1.50. A jersey top and attached denim bottom it has become a firm favourite with my sister for those times when she just will not stay put at nappy changing times!

So there we go 2 for the price of one this week! I look forward to seeing what you all have been dressing your little ones up in this week too.

Wednesday, 30 July 2014

Being Treated Like a Criminal! A Housing Benefits Nightmare

So today I had to visit my local town hall to go to the local councils one stop shop for all things council related including council and housing benefits. I had an arranged house visit a few weeks back but they changed the date and I was due into work that afternoon. I was assured that they would be calling early on but it didn't turn out that way and I had to leave for work missing my appointment. Complete and utter nightmare! So I ended up having to take all my paperwork into the one stop shop to verify my claim. To make sure I wasn't claiming stuff I shouldn't be or earning more than I should be!

Now don't get me wrong I am not all political about the subject but, as someone who too has to claim certain types of benefit not to be confused with someone who wants to, I have experienced a fair few situations and to be honest most of what I have experienced personally and through close friends and family has been completely biased against those of us who are completely honest and genuinely in need of some help

I absolutely hate claiming this benefit with a passion. You are held hostage to a ridiculous amount of rules, and restrictions. If you dare to earn to work even one hour more than your stated contract, penalised, if you are claiming as a single person you have to be very careful about your relationship as staying over the night accounts towards moving in if it is over a specified number of nights. Trust me if I could get of this nightmare of a benefit I would as soon as is humanly possible, but for me to do this I would have to go to work full time and as I am genuinely a single mum, it would mean me missing out on Olivia growing up so for now I am stuck with it!

So back to my visit today, it was like going into the Jobcentre, a completely horrible experience. Regardless of your situation you are treated like a criminal, if not worse because ALL benefit claimants are grouped under one category, scum! If it is not their intention to make you feel that way then they are doing a crap job at it as I was spoken down to, treated with suspicion and almost contempt and questioned on everything except the colour of my knickers! Seriously all I was doing was handing wages slips in yet I was treated to an interrogation usually only seen at immigration control have you ever seen those border control programmes? Ridiculous and to make things worse they wanted information they already held and basically called me a liar asking what I had to hide! Nothing you sent me the letters so I presumed you already had it! For the love of god if this is the level of incompetence no wonder so many people are able to claim things they are not entitled to. It was a completely demeaning and humiliating experience and I have to wonder why? Why is like that for people who genuinely need this help? Is everyone feeling the same as me or are those hard faced enough to be reaping in money they shouldn't be that cocky they don't care how they are treated as it is surely a necessary step to get what they think they deserve! (Think another post on my feelings on this subject is required: scroungers make my blood boil!)

So now I am glad it is done and fingers crossed I don't have to do this again in the near future and I can honestly say hand on heart I look forward to the day I say "I want to end my claim" I live in hope anyway.

Have you  ever been treated like this for trying to claim benefits? Or are you lucky enough to never have had to claim them?

Monday, 28 July 2014


Previously I have written about how I am dealing with some noise issues with my neighbour. Having been in touch with my local council and my housing association I have been hoping for some sort of resolution sooner rather than later, I now know it was maybe a little foolish and immature of me. Silly to think that a few phone calls and letters. Me jotting down dates and times of all disturbances as they all told me to. Taking videos was all for nothing too.

An appointment was made, I was at work and they property in question was visited to get their side and for them to discuss how they can be better neighbours. I eagerly awaited a favourable outcome, maybe I had built it up a bit too much, but when I finally spoke to the person handling my complaint a few days later, boy was I in for a bit of a shock!

It turns out that they are an upstanding, well liked part of the community who absolutely does not understand my complaints. Totally oblivious to why I could possibly be complaining. I mean, as he works all week (hogwash) he is entitled to play his music to relax of a weekend yes? He denies full responsibility for any/all late night door slamming and banging around the house. To quote
"We don't want any of this trouble we don't know what her problem is with us"
Well, the feeling is 100% mutual but my favourite part was his answer to pushing Olivia out of the way at the gate? She wasn't there in his way and he was confused about which gate to use as he felt intimidated by everyone crowding at the gates. We were mums on the school run, not completely unreasonable. A simple excuse me would of done the trick and said parents would of moved out of the way. Instead he chose to push past through my gate and the turn his 6 and a half foot built frame towards my sister and her 15 month old daughter and square up to her like he was ready to thrown down in a full on fist fight! Completely innocent there for sure! So needless to say my complaints aren't going to be followed up and I am now left completely exasperated and at a loss over what to do now! Feeling like it's a case of put up and shut up now as apparently regardless of my complaint the fact that they are an elderly couple is going to win out every damn time.

So I have chosen to upload the videos to you tube as a way of making sure they don't delete from my phone, as it has a habit of doing, and let you decide for yourself if I am indeed making it all up or just being really bitchy over insignificant things.

I would love you to pop over to my you tube account and let me know what you think. Below will be last nights noise. As I was falling asleep around quarter to 12 last night I heard a noise that genuinely made me think someone had (again) tried to get through my back door in the kitchen. So I got up and realised that it was them putting the dog out before bed! Enjoy.

Sunday, 27 July 2014

Our Giant Day Out!

Last week I wrote about really wanting to go to Liverpool to see the new Giant Spectacular event that was coming back to town. I visited a couple of years back for the Sea Odyssey event to commemorate 100 years since the sinking of the Titanic. This years tells the stories of WW1 as August also sees the 100 year anniversary since the start of WW1.

There were whole day events planned for the whole of Liverpool for Friday and Saturday but as I was in work I couldn't visit until today. There was all kinds of fun featuring the Little Girl Giant and her dog XOLO, along with Grandmother Giant and I have to say I'm kinda gutted I missed it all. But we did make it over today to wave them all back off on their journey.

Liverpool was absolutely chock-a-block full of people the same as last time. There was a reported 800,000 extra people in Liverpool last time and this years possibly attracted even more. That said it made it very difficult to find a good place to watch the extravaganza as people were lining the streets in droves. 5 deep at the barriers, everyone clamouring to get the best view, pictures and videos to record and treasure this event once more. This made it all the more awkward as my sister and I had 3 kids with us we wanted to see yet also let them see too. With so many people in the same place it was quite hard to see so it meant the 2 of us picking all the girls up one by one so they could see. Also on this note all pictures and videos were taken by the kids whist we had hold of them so please excuse the quality and shakiness, especially as Olivia is not far off the same height as me and is kinda too big for me to be picking up! So I hoisted her up and she sat on my chest with my face squished into her backside so she could everything that was going on. And she loved it! Even though it as over in mere minutes from where we were standing. Totally worth getting squashed and pushed and shoved from all angles by people all wanting to catch a glimpse for themselves.

We did head over to the Pier Head to wave them off but after waiting for over half an hour we saw absolutely nothing as they, made their final journey out of Liverpool. So we made our way back into town and on our way home.

We love the Giants and will definitely being going back to see them next time they visit us. I think it's amazing to watch and see how they bring the giant marionettes to life to put on a show of this magnitude around a whole city. Thanks guys and we hope to see you again soon!

Did you manage to catch any of this weeks events? I would love to see your pictures or video's too let me know :) 

Friday, 25 July 2014

Trendy Tot Thursday: Week 3

This week I am linking up again with Clearly Bex for another Trendy Tot Thursday. As Olivia is such a little poser this is the perfect  link up for her.

Currently she is really into her girly dresses, last weeks outfit was one of my favourite dresses on her and this week is the same. As soon as I seen this dress I had to have it for her whether she liked it or not! The colours are beautiful so light and fresh and summery I would of had one if it came in my size too! We both have a thing for maxi dresses of late.

So about the dress, it is from Primark and was only £8! £8!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously it was such a bargain. She has it in size 11-12 so currently it still trails on the floor a little bit but she does wear it with wedges, at  8 years old! god help me when hits the teenage years is all I can say.

There are little beads on the strap and a matching belt too. I just really love these colours and she says it makes her feel like a princess what more could you want. She has styled it with a hair band she got for her birthday and a loom band (damn things make an appearance everywhere).

So there we go this weeks outfit! What do you think?